As human beings we focus so hard on the negative. We beat ourselves up, internalize, and walk around shameful of our defects. We rarely take time to celebrate small victories. Many of them go unnoticed by our own awareness. Just as living in a space of gratitude can drastically change your perspective so can celebrating small wins have a dramatic impact on our self worth and self confidence. Celebrate vs Bragging Very subtle difference between the two and this is just my interpretation. If you’re telling more than three people about your win you’re most likely looking for validation. If you’re telling others and sharing in an effort to one up someone else, you’re not celebrating. Celebrating is just between you and you. It’s an awareness that you accomplished something. It really doesn’t matter what it is. Celebrate that you made your bed and started the day with an accomplishment.…
Navigating Holiday’s in the First Year of Recovery
My first trip back for a big holiday with the family was filled with anxiety and a constant concern over how best to act. I am a 5 hour flight from them and so there are large gaps of time between family gatherings and outside of occasional phone calls the progress and changes not just in my life but in my thinking aren’t apparent to my immediate family. So, showing up all reformed may come off as showy and coming back with little changed in my demeanor or how I act would beg the question, “what is he doing?”. This is the kind of things that go through my head. I made the mistake of thinking there’d be a ticker tape parade the first time I came back this summer and that was a huge disappointment that actually regressed some of the progress I had made to date. Giving up…
Plant The Seed
10 years ago after a particularly bad bender I reached out to a friend who I knew was in Alcoholics Anonymous and could help talk me through how to get out of the predicament I had gotten myself into. After missing several days of work and feelings of shame, guilt, and depression were setting in, my friend Will came and picked me up. He took me to my first AA meeting and talked to me about why I was doing what I was doing. I was ready for help and I knew I needed it. I was 30 at the time. I went to AA for a few months, never got a sponsor, didn’t read a page of the book but still liked that I was taking some sort of action. Unfortunately, that was not enough and ultimately, I was not ready. Will didn’t beg, plead, or try to convince…
Can A Positive Experience Change You?
Can a positive experience have the same impact on your psyche that traumatic experiences can have? A truly traumatic experience can have psychological and physical impacts that can not only last a life time but can sculpt how we live. Is it so unbelievable to think the same can happen from a positive experience?
Entheogens & Recovery From My Addiction
You will hear me use the terms Psychedelics and Entheogens interchangeably. Most will relate closer to Psychedelics as that term was coined by Dr. Humphrey Osmond in the 50’s and let’s be honest, it really defined the 60’s. In an effort to distance the movement from the recreational use of psychedelics a new term arose in the late 70’s by Carl A. P. Ruck, a mythology scholar, called Entheogens derived from the greek en (within) theo (divine) and gen (creates). Put more simply, divine medicine. A much more fitting term for the maturity with which these plant medicines are being studied and used to treat a multitude of mental and physical health disorders/trauma. While it may be confusing to most how the use of Entheogens can help with addiction recovery but that’s more about your perception of these plants and how they’ve been portrayed in the news and media. Is it weird to you that…